The other day, one of my besties reached out to me and told me that she has a couple of friends that have the Channel 43/23 in common and that they are having a difficult time feeling left out. She asked me what my thoughts are about the 43/23 Channel of Structuring.
I have the Channel of Structuring. My entire channel is in the body (Design side, red), and it works subconsciously.
Before Human Design, I used to get very stressed out about holding onto my thoughts and interrupting people because I didn’t want to lose sight of the words I wanted to speak. I was a horrible listener. I had no patience. I would feel very precise about my insights and would force others to listen to my ideas concerning THEIR life. I thought I knew what was best for everyone! I didn’t care if they wanted to hear them or not. It caused a shit load of drama. It was also the perfect way to get myself excluded. I sounded like a freak.
Through years of experimentation, I have learned that someone can hear my advice only if I wait for the right time to speak, the right time to share my insights. Channel 43/23 is an invited channel, and my insights are not helpful to others unless they want my advice. I may know something that would be very beneficial to the Other, but if they have no desire to hear it, then I don’t bother sharing it. I don’t have the energy to share it. When my sharing has been uninvited, I sound like a freak. If I wait and I am asked for it, I seem like a fucking genius!
Those who have the Channel 43/23 have the potential to make a profound impact on the Other by changing the way others see things. It’s been my experience that the Other needs to be ready for a change though. It’s only when they are aware and interested in unveiling their own truths that they will be able to hear you. Timing is everything when it comes to this channel.
If someone asks for my advice and they don’t know me well, I will ask them if they really want it. My knowing isn’t always pleasant; however, I have observed that it will push you into a new space, a new way of thinking, a new way of being … if you are ready for it. If someone asks for my advice, I may respond “No” even though I have information. Just because we have insights does NOT mean we are responding or responsible to share them.
At this time in my life, I am surrounded by very close friends that seek out my advice. They know that “I Know” things. They don’t need any explanations for it. They trust it. On many occasions, I have been told that they come to me because I will tell them the truth, no matter what it is. I am very honored that they feel this way.
Several years ago, when I attended John Martin’s Way of the Jedi class, we were asked to do a presentation at the very end of our year-long course. I knew what I would be discussing, but how it would ultimately unfold, I had no idea. As a Generator (MG), I am here to understand myself. My presentation was about me, and it was completely unplanned. I did not have notes, and I did not create a PowerPoint presentation. All I had displayed was my chart, my subconscious knowing, and my voice. I didn’t have a clue where I would start. My chart went up, and I started talking. My presentation lasted 33 minutes. I’ve listened to it several times over the years, and it is well thought out and very organized, structured and powerful. Would I like to change a few things? Absolutely! But it’s pretty rock solid.
With that presentation, I experimented with my lack of preparation (homogenized thinking). All my life, whenever I would prepare presentations that I would change them while I was in the middle of presenting! It would drive ME crazy! I would spend hours and hours poring over the material, creating material, thinking I would get it just right, only to throw it out the window as I was in the middle of it! My HD presentation was the first time I truly trusted in my knowing. It’s subconscious, I can’t access it, and I NEVER know what’s going to come out of my mouth. I even surprise myself! And here’s the funny thing, I can sound like a freak or a genius even to myself!
Ok, so let’s not forget that the 43/23 is an individual channel. Individuals are designed to be deaf. You are protected as an individual because you need to block out the knowing/advice of others so you can move through your own thoughts and ideas. You will be excluded. You will be left out. The knowing is the truth as it pulsates. I know. I don’t know. I know. Let’s face it, the majority of people shy away from their truths. It’s not your responsibility to make them understand their truths. Period.
I realize that being an individual will always make you feel different from others. I feel we will always feel different from others. We never quite “fit in.” My suggestion is to try and get comfortable with that fact. I don’t think that the feeling of exclusion will ever go away. I feel it all of the time; however, I’m not moved by it. I sit with it and live my life. However, as you begin to experiment, you will see that the correct people will include you and you will be surrounded by those who value you and want your insights. It takes time, just like everything else. Just keep in mind, that with the 43/23, we don’t choose what we know, the trick is not sharing what we know unless we are asked.