A few days ago, my friend, A. called me and wanted to know if I would go with her to the 2017 Blues Blast Festival. The event would be on Saturday from 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. I said yes. She said she would call me the morning of and let me know what time she’d be over. The festival is only 3 blocks away from my apartment.
Then, my friend Q. called me and invited me out to dinner on that same Saturday. He was thinking of an early dinner. He’s moving to Las Vegas and wants to hang out before he leaves. He also warned me that he had a slight cold. I asked him NOT to make an official plan, but to give me a call and let me know how he is feeling that morning. We could go from there.
And then, my friend K. invited me to attend her webinar at 9:30 a.m. on the same Saturday! I said yes.
I’ve been doing this for the last couple of years. I agree to go somewhere with someone and then, I get another invite and respond to doing that one as well. Everything happening on the same day or at the same time. I do not tell my friends that I’ve responded to other plans. I know that if I mentioned any of my behind-the-scenes antics, it would stress them out and me!
Here’s what I would have done with all the Saturday invites pre-Human Design. I would have called A. I would have asked her questions. What time are we going to the festival? (I would want to make it to K.’s webinar.) Do you want to stay for the whole event? What time do you think we’ll be leaving the Blues festival? And then, I would talk to Q. and ask him what time would be going out for dinner in spite that he wasn’t feeling the best. I would need a time! I would want a chance to get ready for dinner, so that time would also need to be scheduled in. I would have made myself super stressed wanting to make the whole day work out, and I would have stressed my friends out as I coordinated my time to be with all three of them. Insane, I know … but that’s how my NOT-SELF operates.
What I do is respond in the now. That’s it. It doesn’t matter if I have double booked plans, or if the time of events overlap. If I respond correctly, all of my “plans” will unfold the way they should. I am learning not to let my mind get in my way.
This is how my Saturday turned out. I woke up at 9 a.m. Checked my phone. No calls. No texts. I made myself a cup of coffee and settled in front of my computer to attend K’s webinar at 9:30 a.m. At about 10 a.m., A. calls me and says she’s running late. She’ll be arriving at 11 a.m. As I attend K’s webinar, I get dressed and ready. The webinar is over at 11:15 a.m. and I let my friend know that I’m leaving during the Q&A. A few minutes later, A. calls me to tell me that traffic is terrible and she’s stuck, but she’ll see me soon. When she gets here, we walk over to the festival. It’s 11:45 a.m. when we get there. No word from Q. By 2 p.m., I get a text message from Q. He’s canceling. His slight cold is now worse. A. and I have a very lovely time listening to music until 6:30 p.m.
I used to be a planner. I used to stress out to make things happen. I would melt down and freak out when my plans fell apart. I trust LIFE to sort it all out for me as soon as I respond correctly. That’s the key … responding correctly.
And as I leave A. at her car and head over to my apartment, I walk out of the elevator and I run into one of my favorite neighbors! He and I chat for about 10 minutes and I told him about the blues festival. He tells me he LOVES that kind of stuff! His whole body lights up while I was telling him all about it. Next time, I know about something cool happening, he wants in! And my sacral response is YES! Then, he invites me to go with him to the shooting range during the week. And I say YES! … Invite #1.